It seems like each office has a person who is loved less than most people. Often times, these people deserved contempt – perhaps they did something to spark contempt from their colleagues.
Sometimes these people are just fools. They know what they’re doing and enjoy the role of being a bad guy. But most of the time, those who have a reputation for being bad coworkers may not know what they are doing.
This means that you could be (or could become) a person who is not well liked, without even knowing what you have been up to. Avoiding the three scenarios below should help you stay on the safe side of your coworkers.
Do not call anyone in public
Maurie backman: Over the course of my career, I have certainly had my share of disagreements with colleagues. And usually when someone is arguing with me about something, I dig enough research to back up my position if I really think I’m right. Having said that, the one thing I always tried to avoid is calling my coworkers to be wrong in public places, like during meetings.
The way I see it, making a coworker feel sheepish in public will only hurt the relationship and make that person feel bad. So why do it? A better bet is to have this person sit down privately and give them the details they need to know, rather than letting others be in the know about this discussion.
Once a coworker had a long argument with me about something during a team meeting, and after that I returned to my office, collected some data and headed over to towards his desk to prove him wrong – in front of the rest of our team.
But once there, something in my brain set off a warning signal, and instead I called for a quick chat in the corner conference room. I then proved I was right in this scenario, at which point he not only apologized for his behavior, but applauded me for sparing him the embarrassment. This incident actually improved our relationship, and we ended up working really well together afterwards.
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Don’t be a credit hog
Daniel B. Kline: Who did what on a project is not always clear. The same can be said for the way the credit is divided. One person may consider having the original idea the most important thing, while someone else will consider having done the heavy lifting as the key.
Both can be right or both can be wrong, but it’s always best to be generous when sharing the credit. If you’ve worked on something with other people, celebrate their work, even if you think your efforts were the most important.
It is better to be too gracious than to be stingy with credit. If you’ve done the lion’s share of the work, the boss will find out over the course of multiple projects, as will your teammates.
Be a good partner and your colleagues will want to work with and for you. It is an important step in becoming a boss, even if it is not your main goal.